We blog about helping Long Island families to resolve conflicts in the most productive ways possible.
Mar 23, 2016BY: Roxane PolakIN: The Collaborative Team,What is Collaborative Divorce?
The best way to explain how Collaborative Divorce works – and the value of this team approach – is to share a real case study. Sue* and John*, the parents of two children, were married for ten years when John told Sue he had an affair and wanted a divorce. He moved out and then […]
Nov 15, 2015BY: Neil GrossmanIN: Children and Parenting Issues
Most parents are concerned about how a divorce will affect their children. Current research on this topic indicates that: The ending of a marital relationship does create stress in families. Stress contributors include the parents’ own stress, reduced parenting capacity, impending family relocation, and economic instability. The good news is that most of these have […]
Nov 1, 2015BY: Roxane PolakIN: Children and Parenting Issues,The Collaborative Team,What is Collaborative Divorce?
The parents of Amy* (age 14) and Nick* (age 10) are using the Collaborative Divorce process. Putting a Child Specialist on the collaborative team was suggested because of the parents’ disagreement over Amy’s and Nick’s needs. Mom thought Dad was too indulgent and not attentive enough to safety. She insisted on meeting all of Amy’s […]
Nov 1, 2015BY: Neil GrossmanIN: Conduct and Communications,Emotions and the Family Specialist,Is Collaborative for You?
When couples fall in love and marry, they expect it to be forever. However, far too many marriages end in divorce and children become collateral damage in a divorce war. Although divorce causes stress and prompts painful emotions, it does not have to mean the end of the family. It merely signals changes in the […]
Jul 20, 2015BY: Neil GrossmanIN: Children and Parenting Issues
How do children view their parents’ divorce? Certainly, this depends on the age of the child. However, their view also reflects the amount of conflict between the parents, before, during and after the divorce. I have worked with many children whose parents have divorced. They have related their stories to me. Children of all ages […]