We blog about helping Long Island families to resolve conflicts in the most productive ways possible.
Mar 23, 2016BY: Roxane PolakIN: The Collaborative Team,What is Collaborative Divorce?
The best way to explain how Collaborative Divorce works – and the value of this team approach – is to share a real case study. Sue* and John*, the parents of two children, were married for ten years when John told Sue he had an affair and wanted a divorce. He moved out and then […]
Nov 1, 2015BY: Roxane PolakIN: Children and Parenting Issues,The Collaborative Team,What is Collaborative Divorce?
The parents of Amy* (age 14) and Nick* (age 10) are using the Collaborative Divorce process. Putting a Child Specialist on the collaborative team was suggested because of the parents’ disagreement over Amy’s and Nick’s needs. Mom thought Dad was too indulgent and not attentive enough to safety. She insisted on meeting all of Amy’s […]
Nov 1, 2015BY: Neil CahnIN: Collaboration or Litigation or Mediation
You don’t need your lawyer’s permission to ask your friends; you’re going to do it anyway. So ask. Ask the ones who have gone through a litigated divorce how it feels to take time off work or from errands to go to court. They sat in their judge’s courtroom for a couple of hours, only […]
Nov 1, 2015BY: Neil GrossmanIN: Conduct and Communications,Emotions and the Family Specialist,Is Collaborative for You?
When couples fall in love and marry, they expect it to be forever. However, far too many marriages end in divorce and children become collateral damage in a divorce war. Although divorce causes stress and prompts painful emotions, it does not have to mean the end of the family. It merely signals changes in the […]
Jul 27, 2015BY: Neil CahnIN: Collaboration or Litigation or Mediation
Trying something new off the menu seems more enticing when you’re in a different country. The same might be said for the menu of divorce resolution options. Let’s travel north of the border into Canada. In a July 17, 2011 press release, the Attorney General for Ontario, Canada announced new regulations governing couples divorcing in […]
Jul 10, 2015BY: Lloyd FriedlandIN: Children and Parenting Issues,Packages and Options
When parties divorce, they oftentimes think that their troubles are over. What they really may find out is that their troubles might just be starting. Without proper planning and coordination, the results of a divorce may create more issues post-divorce than the parties experienced during their marriage. If a couple chooses to divorce using the […]
Mar 5, 2015BY: Harriette SteinbergIN: Is Collaborative for You?
Survey says: Baby Boomers are ending their marriages later in life than other age groups, according to the Association of Divorce Financial Planning (ADFP). The U.S. Census Bureau considers a Baby Boomer to be one of the 76 million American children born during the Post-World War II birth boom between 1946 and 1964. For validation […]
Mar 3, 2015BY: Neil CahnIN: Collaboration or Litigation or Mediation
Outside his Suffolk County, NY courtroom, the late Justice Donald Blydenburgh had proudly posted a letter from an Assistant Attorney General who thanked him for passing on news of tax evasion revealed in a divorce case. While it is not the role of any lawyer – collaborative or otherwise – to assist a client to […]