We blog about helping Long Island families to resolve conflicts in the most productive ways possible.
Apr 24, 2017BY: Neil CahnIN: Conduct and Communications
Alec Baldwin was recently asked by Ana Sale, host of WNYC Public Radio’s Death, Sex & Money, “At this point in your life, if a buddy comes to you and says ‘I love my kids. I think my marriage is breaking up.’ What’s the advice that you give him?” His answer: “Find a way that […]
Apr 22, 2017BY: Neil GrossmanIN: Children and Parenting Issues,Emotions and the Family Specialist
One of the worst outcomes in a divorce is when a child resists or refuses to be with one of the parents. To be rejected by your child is horrible. It creates a tremendous amount of anguish in the rejected parent and research has shown that, in the long run, the rejecting child will suffer […]
Nov 27, 2016BY: Neil GrossmanIN: After the Divorce,The Collaborative Team
I’m at Thanksgiving Dinner with my family and it’s so sad because my kids aren’t here. This is the first Thanksgiving Holiday since the divorce, and it’s my ex-spouse’s year for the kids. This got me thinking what I am thankful for about the divorce. I’m so happy we were able to agree on getting […]
Nov 19, 2016BY: Teresa OmbresIN: Preparing for Divorce
We’ve heard these words a lot recently. When I hear them from a spouse who is surprised about the other asking for a divorce it often means he or she was not paying attention — or did not realize how serious the other’s complaints were. To paraphrase a quote I heard about the election: the […]
Mar 21, 2016BY: Neil GrossmanIN: Emotions and the Family Specialist
In her March 6, 2016, blog post, Co-Parents Forever: 12 tips to raising healthy children after divorce, Tampa Florida collaborative attorney Joryn Jenkins’ first tip is: You can’t really co-parent until you’re done getting divorced. People don’t always decide at exactly the same time to get divorced. If you’re both done before you get that final […]
Nov 15, 2015BY: Neil GrossmanIN: Children and Parenting Issues
Most parents are concerned about how a divorce will affect their children. Current research on this topic indicates that: The ending of a marital relationship does create stress in families. Stress contributors include the parents’ own stress, reduced parenting capacity, impending family relocation, and economic instability. The good news is that most of these have […]
Nov 8, 2015BY: Neil GrossmanIN: After the Divorce,Emotions and the Family Specialist
It has been said that divorce makes sane people act crazy. This is because the dynamics or pressures of a divorce push normal emotions to the extreme. A divorce is expected to create feelings of separation and loss in people. Also, we realize that the expectations we had in the beginning of the relationship will […]
Nov 1, 2015BY: Neil GrossmanIN: Conduct and Communications,Emotions and the Family Specialist,Is Collaborative for You?
When couples fall in love and marry, they expect it to be forever. However, far too many marriages end in divorce and children become collateral damage in a divorce war. Although divorce causes stress and prompts painful emotions, it does not have to mean the end of the family. It merely signals changes in the […]
Jul 20, 2015BY: Neil GrossmanIN: Children and Parenting Issues
How do children view their parents’ divorce? Certainly, this depends on the age of the child. However, their view also reflects the amount of conflict between the parents, before, during and after the divorce. I have worked with many children whose parents have divorced. They have related their stories to me. Children of all ages […]