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Feb 13, 2017BY: Neil Grossman

I Lost My Valentine; Time To Divorce

Heart broken man

I can’t find my Valentine.

It’s not that she is actually lost. She goes to bed and wakes up next to me, but our love is lost. Over the years it was replaced by anger and resentment and that has recently become bitterness. We have tried marriage counseling, but this hasn’t helped. I have finally reached the decision that we should divorce. I care about my wife and don’t want to do anything to hurt her. However, the marriage doesn’t work anymore, for either of us.

I am looking at a Collaborative Divorce. It seems that this will be the best route to take. A Collaborative Divorce will keep us out of court and lawyers won’t be ampping up the conflict. My wife will have assistance with determining and walking through our finances. Our decisions will be informed with an understanding of the tax consequences of the divorce.

I wish we didn’t have to do this, but I think we and our children will be better off rather than continuing to live in a loveless marriage.

The author, Neil Grossman, is a member of the Collaborative Divorce Resolutions law group of Long Island which is an association of attorneys, family specialists and financial neutrals specializing in the collaborative process. If you would like to learn how this alternative to traditional divorce litigation can work for you, feel free to contact Neil Grossman. Contact information along with a brief bio can be found on the author's profile page. Simply click or tap the author's image or the "View Profile" link on this page.

Filed in: Preparing for Divorce