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May 24, 2019BY: Neil CahnIN: Completing Your Divorce
At the May 15, 2019 meeting of the Nassau County Bar Association’s Commercial Litigation Committee, Supreme Court Justice Leonard Steinman gave the view from the bench; his perspective on litigation as a sitting judge and former commercial litigator. He also spoke of his former tenure as one of the justices assigned to divorce cases. He […]
May 5, 2019BY: Neil CahnIN: Children and Parenting Issues,The Collaborative Team
On May 2, 2019, ten years after his divorce, John McElhenney wrote an online letter to his 16-year old daughter for the Good Men Project, expressing his regrets at losing “huge chunks of life with her” as a result of his collaborative divorce. But that was not a Collaborative Divorce. He tells his daughter, “as […]
May 5, 2019BY: Neil CahnIN: Collaboration or Litigation or Mediation
After years of practicing and teaching mediation and collaborative family law, Adam Berner has formulated four aspects of collaborative practice that clarify how this approach represents a unique method to help couples reach the best outcomes possible in their divorce. Mr. Berner in his May 2, 2019 article in Jewish Link, How Is This Divorce […]
May 5, 2019BY: Neil CahnIN: Is Collaborative for You?
The Wideners of Philadelphia were not out to get each other. So they tell us in an April 19, 2019 online article by Erin Arvedlund in the the Inquirer, They’re divorcing. They’re still good friends. How did the Weidners do it? Stephanie Widener, a software engineer stated: We heard about it and realized it was […]
Apr 20, 2019BY: Neil CahnIN: Conduct and Communications,Finances and the Financial Neutral
Confidentiality in divorce litigation is not automatic. Take, for example, Noy v. Noy. There, the husband had asked Nassau County Supreme Court Justice Stacy D. Bennett to delay the disclosure of financial information until a proposed confidentiality agreement relating to financial information was signed. Justice Bennett denied that request. The husband appealed and the Appellate […]
Oct 1, 2018BY: Neil CahnIN: Is Collaborative for You?
Tom Griffiths, psychologist, cognitive scientist and Princeton professor, concludes his TED talk, 3 ways to make better decisions — by thinking like a computer, with the following lesson: “You can’t control outcomes, just processes; and as long as you’ve used the best process, you’ve done the best that you can.” Dr. Griffiths has researched the connections between […]
Aug 11, 2018BY: Neil CahnIN: Collaboration or Litigation or Mediation,Finances and the Financial Neutral
Jerilyn Klein Bier writes “How Advisors Help HNW [High Net Worth] Clients ‘Collaborate’ On Divorce” in the current issue of Financial Advisor, a monthly publication for financial planners, registered investment advisors and independent broker-dealers, She begins with a quote from Danny DeVito, portraying a divorce attorney in The War of the Roses, “When a couple […]
Apr 24, 2017BY: Neil CahnIN: Conduct and Communications
Alec Baldwin was recently asked by Ana Sale, host of WNYC Public Radio’s Death, Sex & Money, “At this point in your life, if a buddy comes to you and says ‘I love my kids. I think my marriage is breaking up.’ What’s the advice that you give him?” His answer: “Find a way that […]
Mar 4, 2017BY: Neil CahnIN: Collaboration or Litigation or Mediation
After eight years of marriage, Congressman and former Florida Governor Charlie Crist has filed for divorce from his second wife, Carole. In an article in the Tampa Bay Times it was reported that the Congressman’s divorce filing stated that he anticipated a “collaborative law process” in which the divorce would be settled without antagonistic court […]
Dec 11, 2016BY: Neil CahnIN: Conduct and Communications,Packages and Options
In his TED Talk, What I learned from 100 days of rejection, author, blogger, and entrepreneur Jia Jiang, tells of his quest to overcome his fear of the rejection that began when he was as a six-year-old in Beijing, China. Jiang is the owner of Rejection Therapy, a website that provides inspiration, knowledge and products for people to […]