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Apr 22, 2017BY: Neil GrossmanIN: Children and Parenting Issues,Emotions and the Family Specialist
One of the worst outcomes in a divorce is when a child resists or refuses to be with one of the parents. To be rejected by your child is horrible. It creates a tremendous amount of anguish in the rejected parent and research has shown that, in the long run, the rejecting child will suffer […]
Feb 19, 2017BY: Neil GrossmanIN: Conduct and Communications
“I cannot tell I lie – I chopped down the cherry tree.” It would have been easier for George Washington to deny chopping down the cherry tree. However, this legendary story is designed to show us the strength of character that enabled George Washington to lead both the American Revolution and our nation as its […]
Feb 13, 2017BY: Neil GrossmanIN: Preparing for Divorce
I can’t find my Valentine. It’s not that she is actually lost. She goes to bed and wakes up next to me, but our love is lost. Over the years it was replaced by anger and resentment and that has recently become bitterness. We have tried marriage counseling, but this hasn’t helped. I have finally […]
Jan 9, 2017BY: Neil GrossmanIN: Conduct and Communications
Some people may be out for themselves; to score a win at the other person’s expense. This can happen in a divorce or in other types of dispute or conflicts. Strategies in a conflict may include making false claims or false counter-claims. Thus, one technique is to deny the claims of the other party and […]
Dec 31, 2016BY: Neil GrossmanIN: After the Divorce,Children and Parenting Issues
Being with your children becomes much more complex after a divorce. When time will the children be with you, and when will the children be with your ex-spouse? How do you want to deal with these issues? Will you and your ex-spouse make the plans or are you going to leave decisions like these to […]
Nov 27, 2016BY: Neil GrossmanIN: After the Divorce,The Collaborative Team
I’m at Thanksgiving Dinner with my family and it’s so sad because my kids aren’t here. This is the first Thanksgiving Holiday since the divorce, and it’s my ex-spouse’s year for the kids. This got me thinking what I am thankful for about the divorce. I’m so happy we were able to agree on getting […]
Mar 21, 2016BY: Neil GrossmanIN: Emotions and the Family Specialist
In her March 6, 2016, blog post, Co-Parents Forever: 12 tips to raising healthy children after divorce, Tampa Florida collaborative attorney Joryn Jenkins’ first tip is: You can’t really co-parent until you’re done getting divorced. People don’t always decide at exactly the same time to get divorced. If you’re both done before you get that final […]
Nov 15, 2015BY: Neil GrossmanIN: Children and Parenting Issues
Most parents are concerned about how a divorce will affect their children. Current research on this topic indicates that: The ending of a marital relationship does create stress in families. Stress contributors include the parents’ own stress, reduced parenting capacity, impending family relocation, and economic instability. The good news is that most of these have […]
Nov 8, 2015BY: Neil GrossmanIN: After the Divorce,Emotions and the Family Specialist
It has been said that divorce makes sane people act crazy. This is because the dynamics or pressures of a divorce push normal emotions to the extreme. A divorce is expected to create feelings of separation and loss in people. Also, we realize that the expectations we had in the beginning of the relationship will […]
Nov 1, 2015BY: Neil GrossmanIN: Conduct and Communications,Emotions and the Family Specialist,Is Collaborative for You?
When couples fall in love and marry, they expect it to be forever. However, far too many marriages end in divorce and children become collateral damage in a divorce war. Although divorce causes stress and prompts painful emotions, it does not have to mean the end of the family. It merely signals changes in the […]