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Divorce is not only for grown-ups. Children are the collateral damage of their parents’ divorce. While that sounds harsh, it is the uncomfortable reality. In every divorce where the children are minors (in New York, under age 18), there is always a custody decision which results in a determination of living arrangements for the children. […]

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At the May 15, 2019 meeting of the Nassau County Bar Association’s Commercial Litigation Committee, Supreme Court Justice Leonard Steinman gave the view from the bench; his perspective on litigation as a sitting judge and former commercial litigator. He also spoke of his former tenure as one of the justices assigned to divorce cases. He […]

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On May 2, 2019, ten years after his divorce, John McElhenney wrote an online letter to his 16-year old daughter for the Good Men Project, expressing his regrets at losing “huge chunks of life with her” as a result of his collaborative divorce. But that was not a Collaborative Divorce. He tells his daughter, “as […]

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After years of practicing and teaching mediation and collaborative family law, Adam Berner has formulated four aspects of collaborative practice that clarify how this approach represents a unique method to help couples reach the best outcomes possible in their divorce. Mr. Berner in his May 2, 2019 article in Jewish Link, How Is This Divorce […]

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The Wideners of Philadelphia were not out to get each other. So they tell us in an April 19, 2019 online article by Erin Arvedlund in the the Inquirer, They’re divorcing. They’re still good friends. How did the Weidners do it? Stephanie Widener, a software engineer stated: We heard about it and realized it was […]

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Confidentiality in divorce litigation is not automatic. Take, for example, Noy v. Noy. There, the husband had asked Nassau County Supreme Court Justice Stacy D. Bennett to delay the disclosure of financial information until a proposed confidentiality agreement relating to financial information was signed. Justice Bennett denied that request. The husband appealed and the Appellate […]

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Tom Griffiths, psychologist, cognitive scientist and Princeton professor, concludes his TED talk, 3 ways to make better decisions — by thinking like a computer, with the following lesson: “You can’t control outcomes, just processes; and as long as you’ve used the best process, you’ve done the best that you can.” Dr. Griffiths has researched the connections between […]

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Jerilyn Klein Bier writes “How Advisors Help HNW [High Net Worth] Clients ‘Collaborate’ On Divorce” in the current issue of Financial Advisor, a monthly publication for financial planners, registered investment advisors and independent broker-dealers, She begins with a quote from Danny DeVito, portraying a divorce attorney in The War of the Roses, “When a couple […]

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Alec Baldwin was recently asked by Ana Sale, host of WNYC Public Radio’s Death, Sex & Money, “At this point in your life, if a buddy comes to you and says ‘I love my kids. I think my marriage is breaking up.’ What’s the advice that you give him?” His answer: “Find a way that […]

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One of the worst outcomes in a divorce is when a child resists or refuses to be with one of the parents. To be rejected by your child is horrible. It creates a tremendous amount of anguish in the rejected parent and research has shown that, in the long run, the rejecting child will suffer […]

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