Category: Collaboration or Litigation or Mediation

We blog about helping Long Island families to resolve conflicts in the most productive ways possible.

I was recently reminded of the conversation Alice had with the Cheshire Cat in Alice in Wonderland by a person who decided to litigate his divorce without understanding the consequences. Alice asked, “Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?” The Cat answered, “That depends a good deal on where […]

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Do you really want to know why traditional litigation should be avoided by divorcing couples? Here are actual accounts given by people who made the wrong choice and went to court: “JUDGE X has ruined my children’s lives and made mine extraordinarily difficult.  She listened to NONE of the important testimony, read NONE of the […]

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After eight years of marriage, Congressman and former Florida Governor Charlie Crist has filed for divorce from his second wife, Carole. In an article in the Tampa Bay Times it was reported that the Congressman’s divorce filing stated that he anticipated a “collaborative law process” in which the divorce would be settled without antagonistic court […]

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Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt, Naomi Watts and Liev Schreiber are breaking up.  As Hollywood icons, do they know something the rest of the divorcing population should consider?  Watts and Schreiber in announcing their breakup jointly said “It is with great love, respect and friendship in our hearts that we look forward to raising our […]

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In his May 1, 2016 column in Forbes / Personal Finance, What I Wish I Knew Before My Divorce, Michael Smith states, “as a guy who has gone through a divorce, I always feel a special need to help those who are about to go through that process or who have gone through it and […]

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I recently attended a Collaborative study session where the attorneys were discussing the benefits of Collaborative Divorces compared to litigated divorces.  It reminded me of a baseball game. In litigation, the client directs the attorney by stating: “I want this, I need this, get me this.”  The client is like a catcher” in the baseball […]

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Money is on everyone’s mind these days. So it is only natural for anyone contemplating a divorce to ask, “What will a good lawyer cost me?” But the answer is not simply a matter of dollars and cents. It depends not only on the attorney you hire, but also on your basis for selecting the […]

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According to People Magazine, both sides in the Halle Berry–Olivier Martinez split say they want to proceed amicably; and they are using high-powered Hollywood divorce attorneys. Representing Berry is Stephen Kolodny, who has counted Mel Gibson and Lisa Bonder Kerkorian among his clients. Representing Martinez is Laura Wasser, who’s handled legal action for Britney Spears, Ryan […]

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You don’t need your lawyer’s permission to ask your friends; you’re going to do it anyway. So ask. Ask the ones who have gone through a litigated divorce how it feels to take time off work or from errands to go to court. They sat in their judge’s courtroom for a couple of hours, only […]

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In yesterday’s Huffington Post, Rosalind Sedacca, a Divorce & Parenting Mentor and Founder of the Child-Centered Divorce Network for parents, notes that the inclination of a divorcing parent may be “to lash out, to get back at your spouse . . . . Hiring the most aggressive litigious divorce lawyer you can find seems like your smartest choice.” Ms. […]

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